Learning from Leaks: Tips for Staying Prepared and Positive on Your Ostomy Journey

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It happens…Speaking with Ostomates in many stages of their Ostomy journey is the best part of my role at Ostomysecrets®. A frequent topic, and cause for concern, is the dreaded LEAK. My answer is always the same, they happen to all of us; however, they should be few and far between.

Well, it happened to me. I have had my Ostomy for over twenty years, I measure time in between leaks in years at this point, not months, days or weeks. My record is five years, and I had been on a streak of almost two years.

I live in Southern California, and my husband’s side of the family lives in Las Vegas, NV. When I was first recovering from surgery, I worked very hard with my home health nurse to independently manage my ostomy so that we could make the drive to Vegas for my first Thanksgiving as an Ostomate. I reached that goal, and we had a successful trip.

We make this journey 2-3 times a year, up the Cajon Pass, across the Mojave and into the shining city of neon in the middle of the desert. I have never had any issues with my ostomy during these travels, and we’ve had so many fun adventures through the years: swimming in fancy hotel pools, attending shows and concerts, hiking, dining, stargazing and maybe a bit of gambling too.

Last week, we made the drive to Las Vegas again. I typically get 5 days wear time, so I changed my pouch the day before we left. My plan was to change my pouch again before heading back to California. In Barstow, CA – the halfway point of the journey – we stopped for a quick dinner planning to quickly get back on the road to Las Vegas. Then our plans changed.

Something did not feel right, and I discovered that my pouch had leaked. All my ostomy confidence drained from me. I tried not to panic and to focus on finding a solution. This was not an optimal situation, but Barstow is a crossroads town featuring a number of Truck Stops. I love a road trip, and something I know to be true about Truck Stops is they have showers! We happened to be right in front of one of these truck stops, so I walked in, paid my $18 and waited my turn.

My husband helped me get my suitcase, and my trusty me+ Starter Kit that I always carry my supplies in when I travel anywhere overnight. I will always be a better safe than sorry girl, and I would never leave home overnight without my supplies.

In that moment, standing in the Truck Stop shower waiting area, I was feeling very vulnerable and had tears in my eyes. I let the attendant know I was having a medical issue, and that my husband would be coming in with me to help. She immediately opened a shower for me, and got us extra towels. I was so comforted by the kindness of strangers and their willingness to make it a little easier for me.

I showered, completed my pouch change, got myself together and we got back on the road. I was rattled and feeling all of the emotions of what had just happened. The story I share, and what I know to be true, is that my Ostomy saved my life. Even in this low moment, that truth remains. When I was battling my Ulcerative Colitis diagnosis, at my worst moment, I was going to bathroom 45 times a day. Travel, road trips and adventure were just not possible; I was just too sick.

As we finished the drive through the desert, I felt doubt and anxiety creeping in. We had a big family pool party the next day, and I was worried that the remaining supplies that I had would not be enough. Would I ruin my family’s trip?

I had to quiet those thoughts. Why would this trip be any different that the countless other trips? Why would I have pouching issues? My Convatec pouching system has served me well all these years. It helps me to feel freedom and confidence to complete the adventures I so enjoy.

We ended up having a wonderful weekend! I slept soundly in our hotel bed, I swam with all of the cousins at our family BBQ, we dined out and explored The Vegas Strip. My pouch held up, working as expected and intended, and I achieved my typical five-day wear time – even with the 110 degree desert heat and pool time.

Our ostomies don’t just save our lives; they enable us to live full and happy lives. We thrive because of our ostomies and the pouching systems we rely on, not in spite of them.

My comment still stands: leaks happen to all of us, sometimes. If you are experiencing frequent leaks, please call our Convatec me + team and certified ostomy nurses. They are available to you by phone at 1-800-422-8811.

Finding Your Way: The Journey Forward with an Ostomy

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By Ted Leamy

This piece is adapted from my closing talk at the 2025 UOAA Conference held in Orlando Florida. Think of it as a last walk around the conference neighborhood before we all went home — with a few of my own observations.

I’m Ted. I’ve been living with an ostomy 43 years. I work in live production events — sound engineering & sound design for concerts and large sporting venues. My career has taken me all over the country and around the world.

At the start of the conference, I talked about how much it means to keep moving forward — even when the rules of the game seem to have changed. How our stomas are not just physical. They change how we see ourselves. Our sense of Self.

Having an ostomy doesn’t disqualify you from much. It demands a different kind of presence to lead the life you want. And that’s what I think we’ve all seen this week in the sessions and in conversations.

For me, the heartbeat of this conference is in the quiet moments — in the hallways, at breakfast, sitting in the lounge between presentations. That’s where appreciation happens — not just of new facts, but of each other.

Body Literacy

Many people get to move through their day without thinking much about their body — grab coffee, rush to work, sit in meetings. That seems normal if your body is working fine. We ostomates don’t get that option.

With an ostomy, you’re pulled into your body constantly. You are checking, you are aware. You know exactly what you ate recently.

This is sometimes referred to as ‘body literacy’ – the ability to read your own body’s signals and patterns. It’s a skill that gets better with practice. You learn to recognize subtle signs before they turn into problems. You understand your personal normal.

Medical stability is the foundation everything else builds on. Without it, you’re just trying to survive. With it, you can start thinking about what comes next.

I used to think this constant awareness was just another burden. Needless to say, I wrong. Now I think body literacy is one of my most valuable life skills. I notice things now I would have missed before… the taste of good coffee, a great conversation, the feeling of a successful day where everything just worked.

Presence and Appreciation

When you have experienced uncertainty through the lens that we have, you gain appreciation for ordinary moments. Not because you’re trying to be grateful – because you actually are.

People talk about mindfulness like it’s something you have to work toward. For us, it’s just another day. We live it by necessity, not by choice. No expensive spiritual retreat with gurus required.

This kind of presence can get exhausting at times, even border on hyper-vigilance. But kept under control, that presence is valuable body literacy — lessons we can transfer to all aspects of our lives.

For me: it has made me feel more alive. When asked what it’s like living with an ostomy for forty years, part of what I say is it taught me how to be present in my life instead of just racing quickly through it.

Three Stages of the Ostomy Journey

Over time I’ve noticed the journey with an ostomy isn’t one continuous road. It shifts, and it has stages. Understanding where you are in these stages can help make sense of current challenges and hint at what might be next in life.

I think of it as three stages:

1. Getting medically stable
2. Becoming functionally independent
3. Learning to flourish and thrive

First things first. You can’t do much until you’re medically stable. This is about listening carefully to your doctors, managing complications, or recovering from a procedure.

When leaving the hospital after one of my surgeries, when asked how I was feeling, I would joke: “I’m upright, I’ve got pants on, and I’m taking nourishment by mouth.”

That was my humorous way of saying I was medically stable. On my way home.

Medical stability is the foundation everything else builds on. Without it, you’re just trying to survive. With it, you can start thinking about what comes next.

Wanting to flourish is being human. It’s honoring the life you were given by actually living it fully.

Becoming functional is about being proficient in looking after your stoma and appliance. It’s creating a new daily routine that includes all your other hygiene and ‘get ready’ rituals. Getting comfortable in this whole new world.

When you are functional, you become grateful. Functional is a big deal! You can leave the house without mapping every bathroom. You can eat dinner with friends. You can sleep through the night with minimal interruptions.

But here’s what happens sometimes. You get functional, and it feels so secure that you lock yourself in. You find your safe foods, your reliable routines, your predictable schedule. Too predictable?

The problem is when functional becomes your ceiling instead of your floor. Does this make sense? Have you been there? I have. Most of us have, I think.

Flourish and Thrive

Let’s talk about moving from functional (stage 2) to flourishing (stage 3).

Flourishing is what you want out of your life — not in spite of your ostomy but in fact because of your ostomy and the life-saving consequences that got you this far.

Flourishing is when you stop asking “Can I do this with my ostomy?” and start asking “Do I want to do this?”

It’s when your ostomy becomes just one part of your life, not the organizing principle of your existence. It’s when you stop apologizing for your limitations and start celebrating your capabilities. It’s when you stop planning around your ostomy – and start planning around what you want out of life.

Sounds easier than it is to do! When we get functional, there are loud applause from friends, family, and doctors. We too are excited. Except we are people. And just being stable, then functional, is not enough. We want to thrive and flourish and become the person we imagine ourselves being.  That’s where the gap shows up — the space between functional and flourishing.

Mind the Gap

There is a gap between being functional and flourishing. We can be so pleased with being functional that we decide to stay in that mode — never pushing forward, never trying new things, never creating new adventures that self-doubt warns against.

Sometimes we get lost in that gap. You’re no longer a patient, but you’re not quite thriving either. It’s easy to feel disoriented, questioning if wanting more is worth the risk.

If we want more, are we ungrateful for what we have? Deep question. I say no.

Thriving is the aspiration. However it looks for each of us, that’s the direction forward.

Being grateful for your medical stability and functional independence doesn’t mean you have to stop there. You can be thankful for what you’ve achieved AND still want to grow, explore, and push your boundaries.

Wanting to flourish is being human. It’s honoring the life you were given by actually living it fully.

The ostomy journey is not a straight line. Circumstances will sometimes force you backward. What matters is finding your way back — regaining functionality, and taking that leap of faith toward flourishing again.

Inspiration Without Comparison

It’s things like this conference that show us what life could look like. Encourages us to keep moving forward. Whatever stage of the journey you find yourself.

When you see someone else thriving — really thriving — it expands your sense of what’s possible for yourself. But careful about comparing. We are all on a unique journey, each of us at different stages — not just in our ostomy journey but in our life journey.

The 19th century playwright Oscar Wilde said: “Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.”

Closing Reflections

Each of us knows our own life better than anyone else.  We’ve already been carrying our courage forward every day — showing up here only made it more visible. That same courage is what lets us reach for more. Thriving is the aspiration. However it looks for each of us, that’s the direction forward. And whatever tomorrow brings, we already carry what it takes to keep moving toward it.  Thanks for spending time with me.

Ostomy Anxiety: Horror in the Grocery Store?

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By Robin Glover

Wallet, cell phone, keys…I’ve always had my essentials when I leave the house. But for the past several years, I’ve added something else to my checklist: ostomy supplies.

When you have an ostomy, you have to be ready for anything. The instant fill, the gas attack, and of course, the leak. Oh, the dreaded leak. It can happen anytime. Or, so it seems. But does it really?

I have this image in my head of catastrophe. There I am, in the middle of the grocery store aisle, my bag has completely fallen off as I stand in a puddle of stool that’s splashed across the floor while output shoots out of me like an over-the-top 80’s horror movie as I stand petrified, children crying out and everyone staring and pointing in disgust.

It always seems to be fear that holds me back more than my ostomy.

I mean, pretty worst-case-scenario stuff. But, it’s hard not to go there. Imagine, worrying about poop (or pee for urostomates) coming out of a hole in your stomach. Like, your front. Where everybody sees. This isn’t some “oopsie” you can pretend never happened. This is a big ol’ brown or yellow stain on the front of your shirt. And nobody’s been drinking coffee.

But is this image even real? I do have a tendency to imagine the worst. Some may even say it’s a talent. My therapist calls it a “cognitive distortion.”

In reality, I’ve had leaks in public. And that’s all they’ve ever been – leaks. Small little leaks that can be covered with tape until I’m able to get to a good spot. In the rare case (two times), it’s been a bigger leak, I was still able to get home and take care of it.

So, it’s fear more than reality. I’m scared of being embarrassed in public due to my ostomy bag. It’s a common fear. Everyone is afraid of being embarrassed. It’s a deep-rooted fear. But my ostomy seems to add a lack of control. I can control things like what I wear and how I act, but I have this stoma with a mind of its own.

It’s like having that “one friend.” Sure, they’re great at home when no one else is around, but take them out in public and you have to constantly worry about what they say. Or, perhaps what they ”blurt out” without warning. (However, unlike a loud friend, you are allowed to use tape to control ostomy pouch leaks).

My ostomy (ileostomy) is permanent. I will have it for life. I need to improve my relationship with it. One way I’m doing that is by being prepared. That’s really all I can do. Before I go somewhere, I check to make sure it’s good. Check the seal. Check the stoma. I now use ostomy pouches with a see-through window just for peace of mind.

I try to carry tape with me everywhere I go. It’s simple athletic tape, but it seals leaks and I can add a lot if need be. That I put in my pocket.

In a smaller bag/sweet fanny pack, I have extra precut ostomy bags, disposable bed pads (brand new, out-of-the-box, they’re very thin and easy to fit into a small bag), ostomy paste, paper towels (I use blue Scott Shop Towels because they’re soft and extra absorbent), and extra trash bags (the ones that come with the pouches). I have everything I need for a quick change. If I’m going somewhere where I’m a little worried I might not be able to find a place to change fast, I carry a backpack with more supplies and a complete change of clothes.

I try to carry tape with me everywhere I go.

More than that, I’ve been working on “decatastrophizing” before I even leave the house. Instead of simply imagining the worst, I think about the realistic possibility of it actually happening. I’ve worn an ostomy pouch for over four years and have never come close to the disaster I envision. It’s basically physically impossible for the bag to simply fall off. Every part of the wafer would have to come loose at once. Plus, I typically wear an ostomy wrap (and just got an ostomy belt). So…not going to happen.

There might be a leak. But I’ve got that handled. I’ve handled it before. It’s not a big deal.

It always seems to be fear that holds me back more than my ostomy. That’s good news, though. Because while I can’t control what comes out of me and when, I can control how I deal with my anxiety about it.

Robin Glover is a writer based in the Houston area. He has a permanent ostomy after being diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease in 2017.

4 things everyone should know about ostomy bags

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You’ve heard the myths about ostomy bags. They’re smelly. Leaky. A dreaded last resort no one would ever choose.

These myths—old, untrue, and stubborn—keep stigma alive. They tell a story that says ostomy bags are something to hide. Something to be ashamed of. Something to avoid or pity. Fueling careless jokes and bleak portrayals, the myths strip away the complexity of ostomy life and reduce it to a sad, lonely struggle.

But ostomy bags are not tragedies. They are not cheap punchlines or secrets to carry in shame. For 725,000 to 1 million people in the United States alone, ostomies are lifelines—tools of survival and symbols of strength. Ostomies make it possible for people to keep living when illness, injury, or pain have tried to take that away.

It’s time to change the conversation. Here are four things everyone should know about ostomy bags and the people wearing them.

1) Myth: An ostomy is a worst-case scenario.
Truth: An ostomy may save and improve lives in ways people don’t often expect.

Ostomy surgery is often framed as a tragedy. Some say they’d rather die than have one. Others insist they could never live like that. Others still tilt their heads with misplaced sympathy: I’m so sorry you have to wear that. Is it temporary?

Underneath these comments is the unspoken belief that an ostomy is a fate so grim, it should be avoided at all costs.

But here’s what people don’t see: An ostomy can give life back. For so many, it means meals without pain or fear. Days without the clench of needing a bathroom now. The relief of a body no longer ruled by urgency, accidents, and the constant worry that public outings will end in embarrassment.

For those with Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis, an ostomy may be what breaks the relentless cycle of flares, medications, and hospital stays. For those with colorectal or bladder cancer, it can be a turning point in removing disease and reclaiming the body. For these and so many other people—those with diverticulitis, traumatic injuries, congenital conditions—an ostomy can be a doorway to fully living.

This isn’t about pretending that life with an ostomy is perfect. It’s about telling the whole truth. Yes, an ostomy can change things. Yes, there may be moments of frustration, doubt, or grief. But for so many ostomates, there is also freedom, relief, and possibility.

And that is anything but the worst.

2) Myth: Ostomies are only for older people.
Truth: Ostomies are for anyone who needs them, from babies to the elderly.

When people hear the word ostomy, they may picture this: an older person in a hospital gown, frail and confined to a bed. But ostomies aren’t just for old age, and they certainly aren’t just for hospitals.

They are for living—for anyone whose body needs a different way forward.

Ostomies are for:

  • The baby born with a condition requiring immediate intervention
  • The toddler whose parents mastered ostomy bag changes before potty training
  • The child with a backpack of homework, snacks, and ostomy supplies
  • The teenager balancing WOC appointments with school, friendships, and first dates
  • The new parent learning to care for a baby while relearning to care for themselves
  • The professional navigating a medical curveball at the height of their career
  • The grandparent chasing after grandkids, refusing to slow down
  • And yes, older individuals who have lived through it all

Ostomies belong to every age and every stage of life. When we widen the lens, we find them at playgrounds and in boardrooms, at first dates and family vacations, in classrooms and grocery store aisles.

We create space for anyone with an ostomy who wonders if there’s someone out there like them. We show them the truth: no matter their age, no matter where they are in life, they are not alone.

3) Myth: No one will love you with an ostomy.
Truth: Love is so much bigger than a bag.

Many ostomates fear they’ll never find someone who sees beyond their ostomy bag. The questions linger between swipes, dates, and hesitant disclosures. When do I bring it up? How will they react? They wonder if the moment they say ostomy bag, there will be an awkward pause and silent calculation that it’s just too much.

Some wish they had fallen in love before surgery—so they wouldn’t have to explain. So the love would already be there, solid and secure. So they wouldn’t have to brace for the moment someone sees the bag and decides whether they can “handle it.”

Even those in relationships may wrestle with doubt. Will my partner still want me? Still find me attractive? Can I trust when they say that this doesn’t change anything?

An ostomy adds another layer to intimacy and relationships. Some potential partners do flinch. Some hesitate. Some don’t know what to say, or they say the wrong thing, or they give a look that stings. (This is stigma in action.)

But love—the kind worth having—is not that fragile. It is not scared of an ostomy bag. And there’s more of that love out there than people think.

People find love at every stage of their ostomy journey. Some before surgery, with partners who sit beside them in hospital rooms, proving that for better or worse isn’t just a phrase. Others after, when they are finally well enough to show up fully in their lives—embracing a love that doesn’t come despite the ostomy, but because of the space it created for healing and wholeness.

Bag or no bag, love is about connection—truly seeing and being seen. And the partners of ostomates prove every day that it’s actually not about looking past the bag at all. They see the bag. They honor it. Not as an obstacle, but as a mark of their partner’s resilience, vulnerability, courage, and strength.

And those are qualities worth loving.

4) Myth: You can tell if someone has an ostomy bag.
Truth: With the right products and care, ostomies often go unnoticed.

People with ostomies are everywhere: at work, at the gym, on dates, in line at the coffee shop. Chances are, most people have met someone with an ostomy without ever realizing it. They’ve stood next to them, shook their hands, shared a laugh—and never knew.

That’s because ostomy bags are not what people think. They’re not open or exposed. They’re not constantly leaking odor or waste in public. In fact, many ostomy bags don’t even resemble the crinkly, medical-looking pouches of the past. Today, there are options designed for discretion and comfort. Sight, sound, scent? All covered. Most of the time, an ostomy is invisible unless the person wearing it chooses to share.

For those who do experience leakage or complications with their ostomy, or just prefer an extra layer of discretion, there are options. A change in products or routine, a wardrobe shift—adjustments that restore comfort and control because people with ostomies aren’t meant to live in constant worry. If someone wants discretion, it can be theirs.

The truth about ostomy myths

Ostomy myths don’t just mislead; they shape lives. They seep into conversations, assumptions, and even the way people see themselves. They chip away at confidence, making it harder for those with ostomies to fully show up in their lives. They feed fear in those facing surgery, delaying care and prolonging suffering. And for everyone else, they can reinforce the dangerous idea that some bodies are more worthy than others.

An ostomy bag doesn’t shrink a person’s worth. It doesn’t make them any less strong, less capable, or less deserving of love and respect.

Because a person with an ostomy is not their bag. No matter who they are—no matter when, how, or why they got their ostomy—they are so much more.

 

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Author’s note: This blog primarily uses the term “ostomy bag” to reflect how the author describes her own pouching system—a functional, everyday part of her life. While the intent is to reclaim the word “bag” from its negative associations, we recognize that others advocate for alternative terms like “ostomy pouch.” Whenever possible, please ask those with ostomies about the language they prefer. 

Editor’s note: This blog is from a UOAA digital sponsor, Coloplast. Sponsor support along with donations from readers like you help to maintain our website and the free trusted resources of UOAA, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.

 

Christmas with an ostomy, all wrapped up

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By Convatec

We want to help everyone in our ostomy community have a wonderful holiday.

So, we’ve put together this guide to share our top tips. In our 12 ways of Christmas, you’ll find advice about everything from stocking up on supplies to eating and drinking in moderation. If you have a child with an ostomy, you’ll find tips on how to prepare for Christmas day. You’ll also find our Accessories Wish List, featuring our most popular accessories.

12 Ways of Christmas

The countdown to the big day has begun. To help you prepare, we’ve put together our 12 ways of Christmas. Share your tips on our social media channels using the hashtag #OstomyHoliday

1. Stocking up

Now’s the time to order more ostomy products if you haven’t already done so.

2. Get wrapping and packing

If you plan to travel, make a checklist of everything you need to pack or better still, pack an overnight bag now.

3. Eat, drink and be moderate

Avoid the risk of bloating or even a blockage by enjoying your favorite foods in moderation.

4. It’s all about the bubbles

Remember champagne, sodas and other carbonated beverages can cause ballooning and indigestion.

Check out our top ostomy nutrition tips here

5. Add Accessories to your wish list

The holiday break is a great time to give ostomy accessories a try. If you’ve got an ileostomy, give Diamonds™ Gelling Sachets a try – just pop one in your pouch to thicken your output and reduce gas.

6. Beware of what’s hidden in the dessert

If you’re one of the few who enjoy fruitcake, be aware of the ingredients and which might cause irritation.

7. Marshmallows aren’t just for S’mores

Many people with an ileostomy find that marshmallows are a great way to quickly thicken output.

8. Enjoy it

Sometimes the holidays can be stressful, even without an ostomy! Being knowledgeable and prepared can ensure you have a great time.

9. Dreaming of holiday food?

From a vegetable overload to rich, spicy foods, the holiday menu is packed full of potentially gas-inducing foods. Many people find they can enjoy these foods in moderation. And remember, if you’re at someone else’s house, it’s not rude to refuse.

10. Don’t expect the Santa Express…

If you’re traveling by land, air or sea, there’s likely to be a limited service. So, it’s a good idea to keep a supply of pouches and supplies within easy reach, just in case.

Check out our top travel tips for ostomates here

11. Stay hydrated

It’s tempting to hope that all that soda and eggnog is keeping you hydrated, but in reality, the opposite is more likely to be true. Alcohol is a diuretic, so if you decide to indulge a little, make sure to also drink plenty of water.

12. Take it easy the day after

Whatever day you celebrate on, it can be hugely fun, but also tiring. So be sure to plan to rest the day after.

Let’s make it all about stockings, not pouches: holiday tips for children with an ostomy

We all want our kids to wake up on Christmas morning (not too early!) thinking about their stockings, not their ostomy pouches. Best of all, there are things we can do as parents to help.

Plan ahead

You’ve already got so many things to think about, so it’s a good idea to make a checklist. Have you got enough supplies? If you’re going away, have you packed a bag?

Eat ahead

It can be a good idea to give your child bland food a day or so before a big holiday feast, to compensate for any overload the day of.

Sleep easy on Christmas Eve

You’re likely to already have an established bedtime routine. If so, try making it a bit earlier so you and your child are not rushed. Remember, to minimize the risk of leakages, avoid eating too close to bedtime and make sure the pouch is completely empty.

Wrap the mattress in a plastic sheet

If you’re not already doing so, get wrapping! A plastic sheet is easy to clean, avoiding any unnecessary upset.

Editor’s note: This blog is from one of our digital sponsors, Convatec. Sponsor support along with donations from readers like you help to maintain our website and the free trusted resources of UOAA, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.

Discarding Pouches Discreetly But With Dignity

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Lynn Wolfson, UOAA Director

As ostomates, we often feel self-conscious in public but deserve the same respect as anyone else. We don’t want to be singled out or face discrimination because of our ostomies. However, we also have a responsibility to leave a positive impression on others and the places we visit.

Recently, while flying, I had an unusual interaction with an airline attendant. Before I entered the restroom, she approached me to ask if I needed anything. Though her inquiry seemed strange, I assured her I was fine. After I left the restroom, she asked if I had disposed of any bodily waste in the trash. I was surprised by the question and said I hadn’t.

As a teacher, I saw this as an opportunity for education. I asked the flight attendant why she had asked such a personal question. She explained that she had noticed my ostomy through my clothing and that her grandmother had also had an ostomy, often discarding used bags in the trash without proper disposal. Her concern clarified her question. While the inquiry was inappropriate, it underscored how improper ostomy hygiene can reinforce negative stereotypes.

I explained that her grandmother likely had a colostomy, while I have an ileostomy with a drainable pouch. I suggested that her grandmother should have used a disposable bag, like a grocery or Ziplock bag, to seal or knot before disposal. This practice helps reduce mess and odor and allows ostomates to discreetly dispose of their pouches. It’s important for all ostomates to follow this practice at home, in others’ homes, and in public spaces. Many manufacturers provide plastic bags with the pouches for this purpose.

It’s crucial for us to carry or request a bag for disposing of our ostomy pouches and to knot these bags before discarding them.

For new ostomates, if you find yourself in a public restroom without disposal bags, wrap your used pouching system in toilet paper and place it in the wastebasket. To minimize odors, consider using one of the many deodorizers available from ostomy supply providers. Some deodorizers are drops that can be added to the bottom of the pouch, while others are air freshener sprays.

To minimize splashing when draining a pouch, try sitting backward on the toilet seat and placing toilet paper in the bowl before draining. It’s worth noting that at past UOAA conferences, hotels have commented on how clean and hygienic UOAA groups are for their cleaning staff compared to the general public.

Following my experience, I’ve advocated with the airline to consider adding a universal sign in the lavatories to provide guidance on the proper disposal of medical supplies. It would be beneficial if airplane restrooms included bags for this purpose, which could also be used for baby diapers, sanitary napkins, and tampons.

In summary, it’s crucial for us to carry or request a bag for disposing of our ostomy pouches and to knot these bags before discarding them.

Managing the Challenges of Pancaking

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By Janet Stoia Davis RN CWOCN FCN and Janice C. Colwell APRN, CWOCN, FAAN

 

What is pancaking?

For a person with a fecal stoma, emptying an ostomy pouch can at times be slow, messy and frustrating—especially if they find that stool is stuck at the top of the pouch around the stoma. When stool is thick and dry, a phenomenon called pancaking may occur. Thick stool exiting the stoma that does not fall to the bottom of the pouch can form into the shape of a pancake at the top of the pouch, hence the term “pancaking”.

Why can pancaking be a problem?

Thick pasty stool can remain over the stoma, making its way under the pouch adhesive and potentially lifting the adhesive/pouch. When this occurs, the stool contacts the skin around the stoma causing leakage. This leakage can damage the peristomal skin, lift the pouch from the skin, and result in odor and seepage of stool onto clothing.

Who is at risk for pancaking?

Anyone with a fecal stoma can experience pancaking, but it is more common among people with a colostomy. Colostomies are created in the colon or large intestine (they are given two, names which confuses people, but they are one and the same). The colon’s job is to absorb or “suck” water out of the intestinal contents, and as stool travels through the colon it becomes thicker. By the time it reaches the final section of colon on the left side of the body, it can be pasty and dry. Many colostomies are created on the left side of colon, making the stool pasty, dry, and thick. When stool is expelled from the stoma, it may not move away from the stoma, getting stuck at the top of the pouch leading to pancaking.

Individuals with ileostomies can also experience the challenges of pancaking, but it is less common and will depend on the consistency of their stool. In some cases, form-fitting clothes may constrict the pouch and flatten the stool, preventing it from falling to the bottom of the pouch.

What can be done to decrease instances of pancaking?

For some people, increasing fluid intake can make the stool less thick and pasty, which may allow it to travel away from the stoma and drop to the bottom of the pouch. Stool softeners can be taken orally to increase the moisture content of the stool which may also facilitate the movement of the stool into the bottom of the pouch. If an individual’s clothing fits snugly over the pouch, wearing a looser fit may also help decrease the incidence of pancaking.

Some pouching systems have a built-in filter that helps air escape the pouch and deodorizes the gas. However, if the filter removes all air from the pouch, it may create a suctioned environment that makes it difficult for stool to slide to the bottom. A sticker for the gas filter (provided with some pouches for underwater use) or a piece of tape over the filter may help avoid the vacuum effect in the pouch. This will vary by individual.

The use of an in-pouch lubricant can facilitate the movement of stool away from the stoma and into the bottom of the pouch. These lubricants can be applied to the inside of the pouch one or more times per day. This creates a slick surface on the inner lining of the pouch to help thick stool slide to the bottom of the pouch and prevent it from pancaking over the stoma. Lubricants can be used in both drainable and closed end pouches.

In addition to pancaking reduction, a lubricant may also make pouch empties faster and cleaner. Several companies make lubricant that can be used in the pouch. A new company, Revel, has placed special emphasis on pancaking and drain time reduction. Revel created a new type of lubricant using a technology called LiquiGlide that creates a long-lasting slippery surface on the inside of the pouch. Their product, It’s in the Bag, can last up to 24 hours, alleviate pancaking, and decrease pouch drain time. This product has been used by people with a fecal stoma who reported a decrease pancaking and emptying time as well as leaving behind an overall cleaner pouch.

Revel is a proud sponsor of United Ostomy Associations of America and dedicated to creating products that make significant improvements in the lives of ostomates. To learn more, visit https://revelostomy.com/

 

Editor’s note: This blog is from one of our digital sponsors, Revel. Sponsor support along with donations from readers like you help to maintain our website and the free trusted resources of UOAA, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.

Do you speak stoma?

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A New Guide aims to help you find the right words to talk about your ostomy

By Joga Ivatury, M.D., MHA

The Speaking Stoma Guide is the first health communication guide for people with ostomies. This work was coproduced through collaboration with ostomates worldwide, UOAA, clinical experts, and health communication experts. This guide is freely available here on UOAA’s website, encompassing 11 communication topics areas including managing pouch leaks, communicating with friends and family, and intimacy.

This work has been inspired by our experience working with ostomates. We recognize that talking about your ostomy will not always be easy. We created the Speaking Stoma Guide to help. We hope this guide gives you an idea of things you could say if you are ever in similar situations and ways to manage challenging social situations that may arise. Each section has a big topic and has different situations that you may experience. In the next section, we will provide a snapshot of situations inspired by real people with ostomies.

Leaks
In this section, we have suggestions for what you might say to help manage the situation based on how much you want to disclose about having an ostomy. These phrases were produced directly from things ostomates told us. For people who did not want to disclose anything about having an ostomy (low disclosure), a person may say, “Can you show me how to get to the bathroom?” For high disclosure, a person may say, “Can you show me how to get to the restroom? My ostomy pouch has leaked and I need to clean up. Would you be able to find me an extra set of clothes? I really appreciate it!” Each section has several suggestions like this.

Talking About Food
With an ostomy, some people have limitations on the food that they can eat. Some ostomates expressed embarrassment when they couldn’t eat the same food everyone else is eating. It’s hard to say “no” whenever someone offers you food. One participant noted that he once told a host on behalf of his wife: “Please don’t take offense. She doesn’t eat these things. It’s not your cooking.” For higher disclosure, a person may say “Thank you so much for inviting me. After my surgery I’m still figuring out the foods that make me feel best, so I ate before I came. Everything looks delicious!” In general, there are many people with and without ostomies that have dietary restrictions.

Public Restrooms
What do you do when you need to use a public restroom to care for your ostomy and there is a long line! For low disclosure, you may consider saying: “Excuse me, I have an emergency and need to get to a restroom right now.” This does not reveal anything to strangers except the urgent need. For higher disclosure, you may reveal the presence of your ostomy and the rapid need for its care. People in line can be helpful too. One of our participants recalls how a stranger helped her get to the front of the line during a pouch leak.

Talking to Friends and Family
Time with friends and family are vital to everyone. How do you address having an ostomy with them? Some of our participants suggested having a “code name” for the ostomy that they can use with their family and friends to talk it in public. Unfortunately, some people have disparaging comments or jokes about ostomies once they know about it. Some ostomates use humor back to deflect the situation. It is also ok to say: “I am not really comfortable joking about my ostomy like that, but I am glad you will be willing to help if I need it. I really appreciate it.”

Noises
Noises happen! People with ostomies have no control of when they happen. In the beginning, our participants noted that they felt awkward about the noises their ostomies made. It helped people to remember that no one knows that the noises came from the ostomy. It is ok to say nothing (low disclosure). It is also ok to say: “Excuse me, I have an ostomy pouch and sometimes it makes noises” (medium disclosure).

Sex and Intimacy
Some people are not sure when or how to tell a romantic partner about their ostomy. There is no right or wrong time. Some people may choose to tell someone immediately, while other people might wait to tell the person until they know the person better. Your comfort is what is most important. We have suggestions and real-life testimonies in the guide related to speaking about sex and intimacy while having an ostomy.

Talking to Clinicians
We also go through ways to manage different levels of challenging social situations or what we term as “difficulty.” For example, you are in a clinical visit with a new physician who is not familiar with ostomies. Our participants universally encountered this situation. They noted that they often are the most knowledgeable person about ostomies in a clinical visit. In the guide we provide some easy to remember suggestions about how to manage this situation and others.

What’s Next?
We are scientists and this work does not end here. We are actively working to obtain funding to test this guide to see if it makes a difference for people with ostomies. We have also translated the guide into Spanish and are pilot testing it with people who prefer to speak in Spanish. Our experiences with major grant organizations, however, has been underwhelming to say the least. Some reviewers talk about “osteotomies” (surgically created bone holes) instead of ostomies demonstrating their complete lack of basic understanding. Other reviewers assumed that existing information already contained a wealth of communication-related information for ostomates. Despite these, we are undeterred and will keep pushing forward for funding. We would appreciate any support for this work from anyone including the ostomy community, ostomy pouch manufacturers, and local/state health agencies to keep the momentum going! We would also appreciate your feedback on the Speaking Stoma Guide. Please feel free to email me at jivatury@austin.utexas.edu.

Joga Ivatury, M.D., MHA, is an associate professor of surgery Dell Medical School and the inaugural chief of colon and rectal surgery at UT Health Austin. The Speaking Stoma Project was funded through the Communication for Health, Empathy, and Resilience Grant Program and created in partnership with Dell Medical School and the Center for Health Communication at The University of Texas at Austin.

Dressing to Feel Good

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By Lynn Wolfson

It is amazing what a boost one can get from dressing to feel and look good, especially those of us with ostomies. I know that when my hair is cut into an easy style that I can maintain, my nails are done and my clothes fit, I feel beautiful. When I feel beautiful, I am happy and share it with the world.

As an ostomy support group leader, I often hear from new ostomates struggling with what to wear after surgery. Many people may have their own style and should explore options to keep wearing the clothing they love. Too many others seem to lose confidence and motivation to dress in the more presentable ways they once did. Overall, I stress to dress so that you feel confident, comfortable, and good about yourself.

So, let us start with the pants. Depending on where the ostomy is located, this will determine whether one would be comfortable with zipper and button pants such as jeans. For me, I find that too restrictive, especially since I have two ostomies. Instead, I prefer either maternity pants, so I have belly room and my legs are not baggy or high elastic-waisted pants. I buy a variety of solid colors of the pants that I find most comfortable.

Unfortunately, men do not have the same choices as women. They should find a brand of pants that are comfortable for them and get them in an array of colors. Stretchable waists can be found on various pants and shorts designs, so don’t feel like you have to resort to athletic wear if you don’t want to.

The tops for women are fun to shop.  I usually get a loose shirt or blouse that goes over the pants. I get multiple tops for each pair of pants so I can mix and match.

Men may still have to tuck their shirts in for business. However casually, they can wear a shirt outside their pants or shorts.

It helps to be beautiful on the outside, especially when I am not physically feeling great.

Since I live in Florida, I only wear pants when it is chilly or when I travel to colder climates.  Personally, I prefer wearing dresses that do not have a waist.  I find them very comfortable and cooler in our hot climate. However, these dresses are not appropriate for business. I do have more tailored dresses without a waistline to wear for business occasions. I generally prefer wearing dresses just below the knee as one of my ostomy bags hangs low.

Shoes should be comfortable. Wear sneakers whenever possible if that’s what you want to do. In Florida, I wear sandals with rubber soles. Up north, boots are a necessity.

Lastly, I get my hair colored and shaped once every six weeks to keep it looking fresh and easy for me to maintain. I also get my nails done every three weeks.

It helps to be beautiful on the outside, especially when I am not physically feeling great. It helps me to get myself going and not have that get back into bed feeling. It is all a matter of attitude!  When I dress for success, I feel good about myself and am successful in getting things done.

Caring for an Ostomate with Memory Loss

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By Sarah Biggart (Convatec me+™)

Frequently I speak to callers about the challenges of caring for an ostomate with memory loss. Often time, people who were previously self-sufficient, independent ostomates become pre-occupied with their pouch; sometimes even pulling on it, which could cause numerous issues1,2.

This could be in the future for some of us, and a reality some caregivers are facing now as they care for and support loved ones.

If you are assisting a loved one, and you see them tugging, pulling, scratching or playing with their appliance, the first thing you should consider is that there may be a reason for this behavior. Their peristomal skin may be itching or burning, or they might be experiencing pain or discomfort around the stoma3. For someone who may have trouble communicating, this could be their way of letting you know something is wrong.

If this is a new behavior, contact your local ostomy nurse or healthcare provider. It’s important to rule out any medical issues they may be experiencing.

If the issue is determined to be purely behavioral, we have some suggested tips and tricks that may help as you care for and support your loved one.

Pouch Change Tips1,2,3:

  • Create a safe, relaxed environment. Take your cues from your loved one considering where they are the most comfortable. Maybe instead of standing in the bathroom, try laying down on the bed with soothing music or a favorite show playing in the background.
  • If evenings can be tough, a morning pouch change before eating breakfast may make more sense for you.
  • Keep ostomy supplies organized and clearly labeled for people who may be able to handle pouch changes independently or for rotating caregivers.
  • Use a calendar or the My Ostomy Journey App to track pouch changes. Do not wait until there is a leak to change the pouch. A leaking pouch may contribute to skin breakdown issues.
  • It may be necessary to store pastes, powders and sprays securely, as patients may attempt to tamper with or ingest these items.
  • Try ostomy accessories designed to simplify pouch changes.

Daily Living Tips1,2,3:

  • Many people with memory loss find comfort in routine. Find a rhythm to ostomy related tasks, such as emptying the pouch, and use the same verbiage each time to bring familiarity. Coordinate with the entire care team to ensure everyone is aligned with using similar language and prompts.
  • Staying occupied may help with keeping hands away from the pouching system. Things like puzzles, sorting items and folding something, may be just the thing to help.
  • Try an Ostomy wrap. Employing the “Out of Sight, Out of Mind” principal, a wrap helps to keep the pouch concealed and supported. A good ostomy wrap is made from a soft and stretchy wicking fabric and helps to keep sweat and moisture away from the skin and the wearer cool and comfortable.

Feeling isolated while providing care for loved ones is a common challenge, we encourage utilizing groups for ostomy support.

And remember that caregivers need care too. You may find comfort in your local Ostomy Support group Find one near you on the UOAA support group finder: https://www.ostomy.org/support-group-finder/.

 

Ruth and her family were confused and stressed when they had to take on the care of their 99-year- old mother’s ostomy.

“My mother has had a colostomy for nearly 60 years. She is now 99 years old with dementia, but had been independently keeping up with her stoma and pouch until just a few years ago. When family members started taking on the task of assisting her, we had to scramble to get up-to-speed since we never paid attention to the details of changing her “appliance” or emptying and re-closing the pouch.”

Ruth connected with me+™ to learn more about how to use ostomy products and accessories, and received follow up product samples and ongoing support.

“Erica was compassionate, truly listened to the problems we were encountering with my mother’s situation, and suggested products that addressed each of those challenges. The bottom line is Erica made me feel supported in my mother’s care, and that she cared that our family wanted my mother’s quality of life upheld when other healthcare providers wrote her off due to her age and mental condition. Erica contributed to us honoring my mother’s wonderfully rich and productive life at a time when that’s not evident to a stranger’s eye. We are so grateful for the support we’ve received through Convatec’s me+ Clinical Support Nurse Team.”

 

If you have questions about product sampling or nurse support available through the me+™ program, please contact us at 1-800-422-2211 or cic@convatec.com.  We look forward to helping you soon.

Editor’s note: This blog is from one of our digital sponsors, Convatec. Sponsor support along with donations from readers like you help to maintain our website and the free trusted resources of UOAA, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.

References:

  1. DementiaUK, Caring for a person with a Stoma and Dementia. https://www.dementiauk.org/information-and-support/health-advice/caring-for-a-person-with-a-stoma-and-dementia/. Accessed November 13th, 2023.
  2. United Ostomy Associations of America, Inc, Dementia Stoma Care. https://www.ostomy.org/dementia-stoma-care/. Accessed November 13th, 2023.
  3. McGrogan M. How holistic assessment and appropriate product selection will enhance quality of life for ostomates with cognitive impairment. WCET® Journal 2021;41(1):33-35